If you’re in a sufficiently technical discipline, requiring any kind of higher
education, I’m pretty sure you’ve heard “oh, you’re a(n)
The first thing to mention here is that, chances are, your partner in
conversation is complementing you, or at least acknowledging that what you’re
doing is difficult.1 Such remarks don’t make for great
complements, but most people—particularly neurotypical people—just don’t
know that.2 There are some tried and untrue methods for countering
this, namely saying “oh it’s not that hard” or “well I hated
At its core, the whole meme of “I hated that in school” is the social equivalent of the sidewalk shuffle, the terrible little tango you engage in with somebody who just happens to be crossing your exact path while you’re walking. If you choose to engage with this, both you and the person you’re talking to look like idiots. Yet, it is similarly unavoidable—somebody will say something about how much they hate, say, physics, math, or biology, and somebody will come careening towards you on the street.3
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This does not apply if you’re an entomologist: If somebody talks about how much they hate bugs, they’re just saying that they hate bugs and they think you’re job is gross. The same goes for people mycology and other related fields. In general, people are actively malicious towards anything they deem to be pests, no matter how important of a role it plays in the ecosystem—it takes more than just remarking about ecological impact to make people not want to kill every last insect. ↩︎
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The truth is that neurodivergent people are not incapable of understanding social rules, it’s just that we have different, often individual, sets of social rules. Neurodivergent people have a hard time communicating with neurotypical people, sure, but the inverse is also true, with the critical difference being that neurodivergent people are made to accommodate neurotypical people. ↩︎
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If you’re one of those people who rides electric scooters and takes precisely zero care to avoid running into people on the sidewalk, you will never see the light of heaven. ↩︎